Angry: How to Find the Good and Let it Go!

Greetings Illuminaries, at the time of this video it had been exactly one month after losing my beloved husband to cancer. Anyone who knows me recognizes my unusual and at times annoying habit of finding God /the good in everything. Yep! Everything! The God/ the good  I seek and find, fall into one of two categories; Blessings or Lessons. Blessings, bring up good feelings in the moment. Lessons, on the other hand, require a bit more spiritual power because they often bring up those negative feelings associated with fear, loss, and pain. 

But, let me tell you, losing my partner really rocked my world! It challenged my ability to find God/the good in this…FOR REAL!!!

Well in the weeks that have passed since I first recorded this video, I revisited my book “Spiritual Healing Through A Break-up” and used the tools contained on its pages to reach a new level of peace. It is from here that I can articulate my internal processes with more clarity in this post. 

We have been taught in various ways through the spiritual writing of the ancients that we are spiritual beings having a human experience; that we are a composite of the sensual animal and the spiritual Divine in one package. The part of us that is connected to our Divine creator understands/knows the reality of all things. The animal/ human part, however, perceives the world through the threat of physical pain and annihilation. Thus, our experience on this physical plane is filled with confusion. And our journey is to become like the Christ to see things as they really are from that higher vantage point of Spirit, as opposed to the lower perspective of the flesh (Galatians 5:13-18). So, we answer the three questions about any event whether it’s personal, or on the world stage from our dualistic make-up .

  1. What happened
  2. How it happened
  3. Why it happened

How we answer these questions as Spirit or Human; will determine its meaning and whether our experience of the event will be through pain or insight. Of course my Human aspect feels the pain in the fact that my husband is no longer by my side because of what happened, he died physically. And because of my beliefs about natural healing, lifestyle and allopathic medicine the How of his death through cancer; its agony, and toxic treatment is absolutely repugnant to everything I stand for. As for the Why, the Human me wanted to find blame. But my higher self, the one that knows all things understands that the What, How and Why of the matter, are all beyond the pay grade of my limited Human understanding, and serve a broader Divine purpose. But, what I do understand is that everything must change (like it or not). What I know is, when one thing ends, it opens the door for more. 

Found it!! My God/the good found in the loss of my beloved husband in these 4 Affirmations

  • It’s a better use of my time and energy to focus on, and embrace God/ the good in our time together 
  • I get to embrace every lesson as significant and precious
  • I get to freely share my gifts fearlessly because I’m needed in the world
  • I get to approach ALL the blessings and lessons in my life with deep gratitude 
  • I get to be the blessing in every situation 

It is my hope that by sharing my story and the spiritual tools I’ve picked up along the way, that you will be blessed and fortified to live a more satisfying and meaningful life. 

Peace & Blessings,


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